‘Why’ : she.
‘Why? Coz you’ll like it’ : me.
‘I don’t like it’ : she
‘Why don’t you like it, I thought a hug’s supposed to be good and are liked by all…’
… and so it went…
Are there good or bad hugs?? How can a hug be good or bad? Can they be different in type or kind or...?
HUGly questions…
I can understand the difference between a smile, a grin and a smirk. But a hug? Bear hug apart, can a hug express different emotions, too?? Can it be anything other than a hug?
Well??
Of course, in a very different kind of way and it’s in the mind of both the giver and the receiver.
And then the revelation; that the hug has everything to do with the mind and the receiver’s immediate mental, physical or spiritual condition…
Aahaaa…
I went about searching for the perfect HUG
Remember how a little child comes crying to her mother and the mother just hugs the child even without asking what had happened while uttering words like ‘its ok kiddo, shhh.. dahling.’ The child, after a few seconds in ‘that’ hug, stops crying and goes back to whatever she was doing, even before the mother had started asking why she was crying.
The child was sad or hurt, in pain or just unhappy or maybe for any other reason or that she just wanted to feel the comfort hug gives. The mother only knew her child needed her, needed to be comforted and the reasons didn’t matter, the solution did. That simple hug did what the child was expecting, gave her the comfort, gave her the feeling that someone cares and she can run to her mother whenever she needs that comfort.
One doesn’t need to know the reasons why the other needs to be comforted, or need that hug; in fact the receiver isn’t even aware that it was a hug that was needed, but just needed to be comforted. But the giver understood the need that a hug is needed to be given at that exact moment, the need to comfort, without asking any questions, and all will be fine.
It’s this precise moment the hug is given, that becomes the most important part of a hug, timing… A delay caused by asking questions, asking the reasons actually takes away all the comfort from the hug, it just becomes something uncomfortable and the receiver tries to squirm out of that hug.
The wonderful warm and cozy feeling of comfort is when the giver knows a hug is needed, and understands the receiver’s mental condition that needs to be comforted, and gives it immediately, that brings miracle that has made HUG such an important thing in our lives.
Then there are occasions and reasons for hugs, like now…
HUGZZZZZ…….
A hug is worth its weight in gold if it is given at the precise moment it is required and given without a word.
The ‘perfect hug’
------------------------------Ken Featherlite
